Bärbel Wardetzki
Psychologist, author and coach
"Sometimes it is wiser to say: Okay, take it!"
Mrs. Wardetzki: Always a dispute in the community of heirs. Do I have to give in to get out of there?
No. First of all, it is a matter of remaining self-confident and smart in the dispute in order to keep track of things. First of all, I should try to put myself in the other person's position. What does the world look like from their point of view? What does the inheritance conflict mean for him? Maybe I sense that there is a lot of uncertainty and fear behind the arrogant demeanor. And with this empathy in hand, there may be a constructive approach in small steps that leads to an agreement. But maybe I also sense that there is a lot of destructiveness there. When I perceive this, it may be better to consider: What do I have to do to protect myself from it? In such cases it can actually be wiser to say to the other: “Okay, take it!” Because working on such people is the substance. Then being the proverbial smarter and giving in is probably the wiser decision.
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Bärbel Wardetzki (born 1952) is a psychologist, gestalt therapist, coach and author with her own practice in Munich. She has been dealing with the topic of narcissism for around 30 years, giving lectures and seminars and has published several psychological non-fiction books on it. baerbel-wardetzki.de
